Promiscuity and Pride

I don’t watch The Bachelorette and similar shows, but I heard about a recent bit of insanity that went down: The current bachelorette, Hannah, professes to be a Christian but ended up sleeping with one (or more?) of the guys on the show. One of the men competing for her hand, Luke, was dismayed by this because he also professes to be a Christian.

The two had a (probably staged) dramatic conversation about her promiscuity, in which Luke stated that he expected more out of her and basically called her a hypocrite. Outraged, Hannah shot back that Luke had a problem with pride, then made him leave in a limo. When the limo was driving away, she flipped him the bird. Nice Christian behavior. Luke may have indeed had a problem with pride, but I think he was just calling out Hannah’s hypocritical behavior as he saw it.

Last time I checked, if you profess to be a Christian, you need to attempt to follow that set of beliefs. If you know the truth and deliberately go against it, while still proclaiming that you’re a Christian, then you’re a hypocrite. It’s different if you’re genuinely ignorant, or if you’re new in the faith and don’t know certain things yet. The more you know, the more you are responsible for. And part of a Christian’s responsibility is to instruct the ignorant, but there are right and wrong ways to go about doing so.

This entire episode of The Bachelorette is yet another example of Christians being mocked in the media. Sexual sins are some of the easiest sins to call a person out on, and in reality TV, there’s that voyeur factor going on. Also, Christians are infamous for focusing too much on sexual matters, almost to the point that people accuse us of being obsessed with sex. I’m sure the producers of the show were trying to make a buck off that. Even so, it’s still a symptom of living in a post-Christian nation; other so-called Christians were praising Hannah for her dismissal of Luke. (You go, girl! Don’t let a man tell you what to do with your body!)

We all need a re-education in what it means to be a Christian these days. Yes, it’s true that Jesus loves you regardless of whether you’re a virgin or not, but it doesn’t mean that he’s pleased with your behavior. Think about Jesus as being like a parent: your parents always love you, but you can do things that anger, displease, and dishonor them. That’s what Hannah did, and the sooner she realizes it, the better. Man, I feel sorry for her future husband.


Thursday Three #46

  1. The Simpsons is apparently turning 30 this year. I used to be a huge fan of the series in middle school and high school, but lately, I’ve basically given up watching TV. Shows like The Simpsons and Family Guy are funny, but because they are also offensive, I started to feel kind of slimy from liking them and laughing at the stupid jokes. My husband and I watched the entire first season of Disenchantment (same creator as The Simpsons), which we found funny, but again, watching it was a slimy experience. I suppose those shows are my guilty pleasure.
  2. At my job, there has been a small push for people to start putting their preferred pronouns in their email signatures. Rainbow-colored lanyards were distributed for the Transgender Day of Remembrance (I’m still not clear on exactly what that is). In a word, things are getting more “progressive.” If they are as truly “inclusive” as they say they are, they won’t force me to conform.
  3. For some reason, I got re-obsessed with Bella Morte, a gothic band that I used to like when I was in college. They did really good covers of “Earth Angel” and “My Heart Will Go On,” as well as The Smashing Pumpkins’ “Soma,” which was how I found out about them in the first place. The lead singer’s voice is probably one of my favorite male singing voices. I don’t know exactly what it is about it that I like.

Duggar Disaster, Part II

This is somewhat of a follow-up to this post. By now I’m sure everyone’s heard about the latest Duggar scandal (and I suspect there will be more to come), in which Josh Duggar (oldest son of the brood) admitted that he was addicted to pornography after he was found to have used an Ashley Madison account to cheat on his wife.

Honestly, I can’t tell you what I think Anna (the wife) should do. I can’t tell you that girls should be raised to breathe fire. Come on, people. It doesn’t matter how much fire you breathe. If someone’s a dirtbag, they’re going to be a dirtbag regardless of what you say or do. If she divorces him (highly doubtful), he’ll continue to be a dirtbag, and if she stays with him and offers love and forgiveness, he’ll continue to be a dirtbag.

My theory about Josh is that he chafed against his parents’ restrictions and rules, but instead of rebelling outwardly (you really can’t rebel in a Fundamentalist Christian household, apparently), he internalized his rebellion until he became an adult and separated from his parents upon marrying Anna. Instead of gaining a little freedom from restrictions and responsibilities, he became saddled with four young children in quick succession, so he was once again in the same position he had been in at home: the leader, the oldest, the responsible person. It’s a lot of pressure.

In keeping with his parents’ values (but apparently not his own), he started working for the Family Research Council in Washington, DC, a conservative pro-life and pro-marriage lobbying organization. From what I hear, the District of Columbia is not a nice place, what with all the politicians and other venomous creatures. What a change from life in rural Arkansas. So it’s really no wonder that he started to lead a double life in which he felt as though he could explore other options beyond what he had always been taught.

I don’t expect that things will get better for Josh in “rehab.” If anything, being beaten over the head with Bible verses might cause greater confusion; it seems as though a life steeped in religion was what he had been trying to escape by creating his illicit online accounts. The issues run deep, possibly too deep to be fixed. Maybe Josh isn’t a certified, grade-A dirtbag, but he certainly needs help; probably more help than he can get from another Bible-based rehab that only echoes his parents’ teachings.