The Friday Four: The S-Word

Unlike most of my Friday Four posts, these four topics all have something to do with each other and all four of them combined to spawn this post:

1. The Fifty Shades of Grey movie. I have no desire whatsoever to watch this movie or read the book, but I do wonder just how much they will show on the screen and whether the movie will attract the same crowd that used to be so into Twilight a few years back. I believe the book did start as Twilight fan fiction.

2. Planned Parenthood is supposedly OK with giving teens advice about “bondage” sex. I think it’s sad that a lot of teenagers get sex advice and information from Planned Parenthood (or any other large, money-making corporation) rather than from a parent or another person who is truly looking out for that teenager’s health and safety.

3. Nicki Minaj’s “Anaconda” song (and video). After I heard about “Anaconda,” I had to try it, and I liked how it sampled that old song “Baby Got Back,” but the video is deplorable and demeaning, and a few seconds into it, I had to stop it. I’ve seen a lot of overtly sexual music videos, but this one has got to be the closest to straight-up porn that I’ve ever seen. It shouldn’t be surprising, but it’s still disappointing.

4. Jill Duggar and large families. If you don’t know, the Duggars are that family with 19 kids. They live in Arkansas and have their own TV show. Jill is the fourth child who recently got married, and she’s already pregnant, so of course, you get the usual “arguments” about how she has been brainwashed into the uber-Christian lifestyle of her parents and the asinine and oft-quoted gem “it’s a vagina, not a clown car.” In short, it’s a reality show, so you never know what’s truly real. Has she truly been “brainwashed”? Who really knows? The family gets bashed because their conservatism is seen as old-fashioned and out of touch, but at least these people don’t infect this already sick society with more overt sexual imagery and violence.

Basically, it’s upsetting that the envelope has been pushed so far when it comes to sex, and that there’s very little left that’s truly shocking. Is this “progress”? I don’t think so. The way I see it, we have a great power to create other human beings, and although it’s a cliché, with great power comes great responsibility. We’re not like animals because we actually have self-control, brains, and common sense that enable us to regulate this power and use it for good. But temperance is a lot more difficult to practice than doing what feels good in the moment, and sex sells, so… I don’t know. Nothing is sacred. People need to respect themselves.