Fifty Shades of Something That Ain’t Love

Every blogger in the blogosphere has put his or her two cents in about Fifty Shades of Grey, both the book and the movie, the latter of which came out in theaters yesterday, just in time for Valentine’s Day. So it’s time for me to add my two cents to the pile of change.

I haven’t read the book or seen the movie, but I have been tempted to read the book simply out of curiosity, just to see if it’s really as bad as critics have said. (I don’t see how it could be worse than anything Danielle Steel writes.) Supposedly, it began life as Twilight fanfiction, so that fact alone tells me that it can’t possibly be any good. Even so, that’s almost beside the point.

What bothers me is that the movie came out around Valentine’s Day, and it’s not a sweet, corny romance like something written by Nicholas Sparks or even a goofy romantic comedy with Adam Sandler or Ben Stiller. Love is not what’s being glorified in the movie, based on what I’ve read in summaries of the plot. It’s about lust and control and how a relatively innocent college-age kid is taken advantage of by a rich (but still somewhat young) businessman.

I thought love was about sacrificing for the other person. I thought love was about compromise, not coercion or manipulation. I thought love was about communicating with each other and getting through hard times and helping each other through life… because life is hard enough as it is. Why make life even harder by getting into a relationship filled with lust and confusion… a relationship that causes you to second-guess yourself and rethink what you thought love was?

Yeah, I understand that it’s “just a movie,” and without all that violence, lust, sex, confusion, and coercion, there wouldn’t be a plot. But thankfully, for every movie (and book) like Fifty Shades of Grey, there are fifty more that tell stories about real love. So go find one of those to watch (or read) instead.

14 thoughts on “Fifty Shades of Something That Ain’t Love”

    1. Maybe it’s like looking into a window at someone else’s bad relationship and being glad that you’re not in it. A kind of schadenfreude or something.


  1. Haven’t read the book. Won’t go see the movie. It has always bothered me that they released this movie for Valentine’s Day. As much as I don’t believe in the commercialization of the day, there is still something about it that could have real and powerful meaning and this movie just cheapens that whole concept.


    1. The movie is just another in a long line of movies, books, and other forms of entertainment that destroy the real definition of love.


  2. ok, so i have read the books, not gonna see the movie tho.
    cuz in my opinion, movies are never as great as the books…
    but in this case i have to say, the movie can’t be worse than the book.
    And i think in some twisted way this book is about love.
    love can take many shapes and sizes.
    and what love is for someone is not up to us to decide.
    as for the movie coming out on V-Day, yeah i agree a nicholas sparks movie would be way more vitting!


    1. Perhaps that’s true. Indeed, love can take many forms. But I strongly feel that if someone has to be coerced into doing something, that’s not love. And although I don’t like Nicholas Sparks, I’d choose a movie based on a book of his, if I was forced to choose between that and 50 Shades!


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