Soul mates and the concept of true love are common topics in fiction. Love is not a logical phenomenon in the scientific sense, even though scientists have determined what hormones cause the feeling of “love,” what bodily chemicals cause us to be attracted to certain people, etc. Even though science has brought us to those kinds of conclusions, I still don’t see love as something entirely logical. Love makes your brain turn upside down and your heart take over. And in a way, reducing love to a science takes a lot of the “magic” out of it.
I like writing about love and soul mates in fiction, mostly because fictional love (for the most part) is so far from reality. There are some authors (Raymond Carver is a good one) who portray relationships and love the way they actually are in real life, with all the complications, unspoken words, and issues from the past. But if you read a romance novel (or something like Twilight), you’ll get a totally different and totally unrealistic take on love and the concept of soul mates. That’s why I consider romance novels to be subgenre of fantasy.
I don’t know if I believe in “soul mates” in real life. I know that there are some couples who get along really well, finish each others’ sentences, and that kind of thing. Perhaps they are soul mates. Plenty of people never find their “soul mate,” or perhaps they just didn’t have one, so I’m not entirely sure that everyone is meant to have a soul mate. Some people are happier alone, with the company of friends and family, and that suits them. Others will keep searching for a soul mate their entire life.
I suppose it depends on how you are most fulfilled. Relationships can fulfill you and enrich your life, even though relationships themselves are definitely not easy. They take a lot of work, and it’s so important to have someone that you can actually work with and who agrees with you on the things that matter to you most. Contrary to fictional relationships, your soul mate doesn’t just magically appear out of nowhere, fall in love with you, and you live happily ever after in perfect harmony. I would say that even relationships between soul mates take a lot of work, but they would be easier than a relationship with someone who wasn’t your soul mate.
So… do you believe in the concept of “soul mates”?