It might seem odd, but there are a lot of authors, musicians, and celebrities I’d want to meet, yet at the same time, I’m not sure I’d really want to meet them because it might shatter my illusion of how I have imagined them.
It’s kind of the same phenomenon when you have a crush on someone. You don’t have much contact with them, so you daydream about them from afar. You’re creating an idealized version of them (or of a relationship with them) in your head, and when or if the day comes that you actually talk to your crush, chances are, they will not live up to the illusion that you have created. They will disappoint you, and you might end up irrationally angry at them for not living up to the illusion that you created.
People may also have their own illusions or idealized versions of you. They may expect you to behave a certain way based on how they imagine you in their minds. They expect more of you than you could ever realistically achieve. You will inevitably let someone down because you are not perfect; you are not their idealized figure.
Basically, the mental illusions we create are powerful. People are never perfect and they will inevitably disappoint us in certain ways. Every person is as full of flaws as they are of good points. This notion is something I still have trouble with to this day. I expect too much out of some people, and I realize that it is because I imagine them to be something that they are not and can never be.