Last week, I said I was going to write about some controversial topics, not because I want to start drama or blast people with my opinion, but because I’ve wanted to write about them… to be brave. So here goes…
Abortion. It’s quite a complex matter. Some believe that abortion is the murder of an unborn child. Some believe that abortion is a simple and safe medical procedure. And of course, there are opinions between the extremes. I’ve followed both sides of the abortion debate on Tumblr for quite some time, and I’m actually impressed by how well people argue for their side of the issue: by using legitimate sources and not resorting to flame wars or ad hominem attacks.
I personally believe that life is sacred. I believe that sex is sacred and is not to be taken lightly. When you have sex, you are responsible for the consequences every time you have sex. The purpose of sex is to create new lives, and thus the biggest consequence of sex is pregnancy, which is how life begins. We all began life as tiny balls of cells hidden inside our mothers… unless we were born in a test tube, which is an entirely different debate.
It’s easy to paint with black and white and say, “Abortion can never be justified,” or “abortion can be justified in all cases.” What about children that would be born with severe illnesses or disabilities? What about cases of rape or incest? What about times when the mother’s life would be in danger if she carried a pregnancy to term? There are all kinds of unique cases that aren’t easy to put in black and white. That’s where the lines become blurred and we start to talk about the quality of life, among other factors.
Yes, I believe life is sacred and is not something that should be taken lightly. Quality of life is a big factor in the abortion debate. It is true that being born of a forced union (rape) or being born with a disability or illness would possibly hinder quality of life. But quality of life is subjective. Your idea of a “high” quality of life might be different from mine. Who’s to say that one person’s quality of life is better than anyone else’s? It’s a question I honestly cannot answer. But does life become any less sacred when quality of life is perceived as low? I don’t think so. Life is life, and to me, life is all equally sacred.
I will not speak for anyone else. You might have had an abortion. I will not hate you or make you feel guilty. It was your choice, and in your eyes, it was justified. You might have sex. But the responsibility for your sexual activities is not mine. It’s yours. And the choices you make about the consequences of sex are not mine to judge. I don’t believe people have a right to tell others what to do with their bodies, whether that’s to get an abortion or carry the pregnancy to term. Yes, by all means – guide others and give advice, but above all, THEIR CHOICE IS THEIR OWN.
Feel free to share whatever thoughts you like. 🙂