I never used to read self-help books. I thought they were corny and that the techniques within them couldn’t possibly work. Then I started working for a publishing company that produces many self-help books, so in the course of editing those books, I began to take the words within them to heart. Reading those books made me want to read more of the “classic” self-help books in the field.
I came across Susan Jeffers’s Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and knew I had to have it. By nature, I’m a fairly anxious, neurotic person, so I thought the book might be able to help me combat some of my irrational fears.
It’s the type of book you’ll want to read again and again, so that you can remember the techniques and keep using them throughout your life. The reason many people who read self-help books don’t benefit from them is because they assume that the act of simply reading the book will automatically solve their problems. They don’t realize that there is an incredible amount of work involved in any type of self-improvement and that you have to genuinely want to succeed, no matter where you are in life.
The main thing I learned from Jeffers’s book is the notion that there are no wrong decisions. The decision is only “wrong” if you tell yourself it’s wrong and if you act as though it is wrong. You have a choice to do your best in life no matter where you are. No matter which path you choose, there are opportunities. If you feel like you made the “wrong decision,” don’t lament and dwell on the past – move forward and see what opportunity you can find within that situation.
If you’re into self-help (and even if you’re not), make sure you read this book. It’s accessible, practical, and realistic. It will help you – if you genuinely want to be helped and work hard.