I have often been told that I have no personality because I am quiet, shy, and introverted. It takes me quite a while to warm up to and trust new people, therefore I am quiet around them so that I can watch them and see what they’re about. (Sounds creepy, but it’s really not.) I like to get a sense of who people are before I start talking to them or trusting them with stories about my life.
I sometimes get questions along the lines of: “Why are you so quiet? Are you mad? Are you sad?”
Then I want to ask them questions like: “Why are you talking when there’s really nothing to say?”
Does having a big personality mean talking a lot – about nothing at all and to people who really don’t care but are only listening out of polite consideration? Maybe it does.
But honestly… I’m not stupid just because I’m quiet. When I pause for a long time after you ask me a question, it means I’m thinking about what to say – not that I’m staring at you with empty eyes. I’m not the type of person who blurts out the first thing that comes to mind.
I apologize for the rant, but this is something I’ve been thinking about lately – how introverts are often misconstrued as sad, angry, stupid, or lacking personality.
I might start quoting this:
“It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” – Mark Twain