The only way to learn how to deal with and accept constructive criticism is to bite the bullet and put your work out there. If you’re submitting your work to an online critique site, it would be wise to keep the following in mind:
1. Look closely at the site before submitting any work. Read over some work and critiques. Do the site’s members give substantial commentary? “Good job” is always nice to hear, but it won’t help you improve your work.
2. Are the pieces on the website similar to yours in length, genre, or tone? Submitting to a group of like-minded writers will be more valuable than submitting blindly.
3. Are the members of the site friendly? Are they willing to give constructive criticism and not just flames?
4. If the website allows, let readers know what kind of critique you want. Harsh? Praise only? Let readers know what specific elements of your story you want critiqued: dialogue, characters, plot, etc.
5. Is your piece polished? Look it over carefully (at least three times) and correct any errors you find. Nobody wants to read a piece that’s riddled with careless mistakes.
6. Always return critiques. If someone is kind enough to take the time to review your work, go and do the same for theirs. Critiquing someone else’s work will make you a better writer, too.
Feel free to add to this list in the comments. 🙂