No two people have the same opinion of you. Chances are, you don’t act the same around everyone you know. You may have one “personality” for your boss, another for your friends, another for your parents, another for your significant other… the list goes on.
If that is true, then how can you expect everyone to have an accurate perception of you? Your boss, your friends, your parents, and your significant other all see you differently. They see different sides of you.
What others think about you doesn’t matter too much. Only you know how you really are. Only you know everything that’s made you who you are and the way you react to things.
So when someone judges you, don’t take it personally. They only see one side of you. They can’t possibly see you as a whole, even if they are very close to you. They are also seeing you through the veil of their own perceptions, experiences, and background. Their perception of you isn’t necessarily true.
I have to keep telling myself this every day. It doesn’t matter what others think. You can’t always conform to what others want because you can’t please all these different people. You can’t conform to their widely differing perceptions of you and everything else. You’ll go crazy trying.
Be yourself. Be who you want to be. Be the best person you can be. Remember that others aren’t necessarily seeing you for who you are. They may only know a small portion of you – and what they know about you is filtered through their own perception. It becomes distorted.